The crisis, the soaring exchange rate of the euro and dollar and the approaching spring holidays are a fatal combination for those who love branded items and are not ready to spend extra money. During the season, when sales are already coming to an end, salaries are rapidly disappearing, and appetites are only growing, you just want to go from the official websites of fashion brands and department stores to groups like “Shopaholics Anonymous” or, even worse, to sites with advertisements. For those who are willing to take risks in pursuit of a desired and unattainable gift, ELLE has compiled a list of recommendations that will help distinguish the original from the fake.

A POINT ON THE MAP

The first and most important thing to keep in mind in order not to become the owner of a counterfeit is the place of purchase. Only official boutiques of the brand, official corners in large shopping centers and official online retailers can give you a 100% guarantee of authenticity - don’t be lazy to look at their full list on the brand’s website. If you buy a product secondhand, it would be a good idea to find out where and how the owner received it (especially if she doesn’t have a receipt confirming the purchase!), and then double-check the information with consultants: as a rule, they remember the collections of the last seasons and will tell you exactly what was Do they have such a model? The situation is more complicated with stock stores and websites selling premium brand goods from past collections: it can be much more difficult to double-check how and where things get to them. Reviews of satisfied or dissatisfied customers on the Internet are information that can be taken into account, but nothing more.

QUALITY MARK

How to spot a fake when choosing a branded bag or pair of shoes? Take the time and effort to get to know the brand whose product you are planning to purchase. What exactly does its logo look like? Signature stitch? Accessories? Lining? What decorative elements are iconic? What is the design of the box, boot, bag? How is the Certificate of Authenticity issued? It would be a good idea to go to the official boutique and get acquainted with the products from the current collection: even if you are going to buy something released five seasons ago, the brand’s approach to working with material has hardly changed dramatically. Look at what fabrics are used, what kind of processing they undergo, ask a couple of careful questions to the seller - often even tactile sensations are enough to notice the difference between an original item and a counterfeit. And, of course, crooked seams, protruding threads, fasteners with peeling paint and cheap fabric on the lining should immediately scare you away. If an item, although branded, is very “ancient”, it will still not be difficult to find photographs of it on the Internet: this way you will at least be convinced that it was really in the collection and on sale. By the way, some brands that openly fight counterfeits are ready to help their customers avoid making mistakes. This is what Christian Louboutin does, for example (you can read more about this on the brand’s official website in the Stopfake section).

QUESTION PRICE

Remember the expression “There are no miracles”? If you purchase a product on a dubious website or secondhand, it is the best fit: a branded item cannot cost five times less than in a boutique - unless its seller decides to organize a charity event. How to determine the original from a fake? At a minimum, don’t lose your head and take your time, but find out as much as possible about the product itself, the place of purchase, the manufacturer and the seller. If in front of you is an employee of a fashion brand or a person from the fashion industry (both are easy to check using social networks!), perhaps she received the item as a gift, and she is ready to part with it for next to nothing. One way or another, it won’t hurt to look at the owner’s page on social networks - as a rule, you can distinguish a scammer from a girl who, for some reason, is selling off her fashionable wardrobe, with a couple of clicks.

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Сообщение БЕЗ ФАЛЬШИ:КАК ОПРЕДЕЛИТЬ ПОДДЕЛКУ появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

How to talk to her? If you watch a movie and tears of happiness come to your eyes, if you are fascinated by the action of the person who did the deed and you feel INSPIRATION - this is HER whisper... these are your DESIRE... there is a piece of YOUR TALENT there. Our logical brain is just a servant -mathematician, called to serve the Soul...although from my experience I will say that it is better for them to be friends...The most wonderful events in my life happened in just such a combination...

I remember how I missed a person who would help me unlock my potential, understand myself... would be next to me a pure, categorical mirror... my personal producer... advice and help... a fresh look, a three-dimensional vision... a wise adviser... I wanted so badly …..that ITSELF HAS BECOME HIM…What inspires me in a person is his EVOLUTION…it’s like watching fairy-tale magic in everyday life….

I will be very glad to meet you...every person who cares about their own EVOLUTION....I promise to reveal new facets of your soul and the personality that represents it

Sincerely yours Lilya Mayorova 

Сообщение Как сделать шаг навстречу своему нереализованному…. появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

In ancient times, when people lived in small tribes, for what reason did they unite? Was there any need for social contacts there or was it just a strategy for communal survival? What keeps us together now? Do we really need communication or is this just a symptom of a general social neurosis?

In this article we will talk about the adhesive basis that forms and holds all kinds of social connections. Some points may seem unsightly and not entirely obvious, but the bitter truth is this: sociality is more of a disease than a person’s genetic nature.

To get to grips with this complex topic, we can start with Freud and his idea of two basic psychological complexes. Freud believed that the child's psyche is formed under the influence of two figures - maternal and paternal. Usually, these are living mother and father, but this is not necessarily the case, since “mother” and “father” in the psychoanalytic concept are more likely a certain type of relationship, rather than specific living people.

The maternal type of relationship can be established by seven nannies, and the paternal type by a priest from the nearest parish together with the neighbor’s janitor. It does not matter who exactly acts as the psychological mother and father, the main thing is the specific relationship that is formed between them and the child.

The role of the “mother” is to provide psychological support to the child. In its natural form, there is nothing reprehensible in it. The child really needs to feel supported by someone more adult and experienced.

And if the mother’s psyche were sufficiently balanced, then there would be no talk of the maternal complex as a psychological problem. But since in the real world, the maternal psyche is usually far from balance, the support provided is colored by infantile emotions and turns into pity.

A mother with a distorted psyche cannot truly love her child. In fact, she replaces love with pity, and when a child behaves inappropriately, she uses her “love” as a means of manipulation: “If you are good, I will love, if you are bad, I will not love.”

Thus, a child, raised on a compassionate surrogate of maternal love, finds himself in a difficult psychological state. He does not know how to love either himself or anyone else - he simply was not shown the appropriate example.

For this reason, from the very first years of conscious life, an internal conflict forms within him - a feeling that something is wrong with him, a feeling of his inferiority. The mother cannot resolve this conflict, and the child is left alone with his misfortune - now he is doomed to seek love and acceptance in relationships with other people.

In simple words, this situation is called “disliked.”

This is how the first pole of internal psychological tension is laid - nonentity. It's inescapable self pity and the constant search for love. But it should be understood that such a person does not yet know what love is, because he only knows pity. This means that he will demand pity from other people, and, having met love, most likely, he will not even recognize it.

When they say that every person needs love, we are talking about this very problem - about the mother complex, about the search for approval, about self-pity. No love is implied here. Such reasoning is just a form of justification for the general feeling of one’s own inferiority, nothing more. A person does not need love.

If the mother teaches the child to interact with his inner world, then the father’s role is to prepare the child for survival in the outer world. But, as in the case of mothers, fathers usually do not do what they should. Instead of being mentors, they act out their own mental problems on the child and turn into supervisors with a whip, in the form of a feeling of guilt.

The father’s task is to teach the child how the world around him works and by what laws he lives. Just like an experienced hunter teaches a young one. In such preparation there is no place for moralizing, but, being just as “disliked”, the father usually reduces all education precisely to the separation of good from evil, right from wrong, good from bad. And from the position of his seniority and power over his child, he takes upon himself the right to judge him. He becomes the one who decides whether the child is guilty or not.

In this situation, the child, instead of learning to survive in the real world, is forced to learn to survive in the fictional world of his father's laws and rules. In an effort to avoid feelings of guilt and punishment, the child learns to lie, evade, or, with a different mental structure, conflict and fight for power with his father. And then, when he already has his own children, he dumps all his accumulated grievances on them, and the cycle continues.

Thus, the father complex is a mess of guilt and attempts to cope with it. One way is to deceive the father, avoid responsibility and evade punishment, the other is to defeat the father, seize his power and thereby deprive him of the right to pronounce a guilty verdict.

This is how the second pole of psychological tension is formed - pride. This is a person’s need to prove his worth and rightness to everyone around him. In this way, a person tries to assert his independence and get rid of the feeling of guilt for himself and his lifestyle. The important thing here is that a person is not able to “forgive” himself, and therefore he is forced to seek forgiveness from the outside.

As in the case of a lack of true maternal love, when a child is not able to love himself, in the case of a father complex, the child is not able to establish his own laws in life, and therefore tries with all his might to comply with or fight with the laws of others. To do this, he has to find authorities among people, and either follow their orders and receive their approval, or overthrow them and destroy their “law.”

All social competition and struggle for power is based on this principle. Each successive victory creates a sweet feeling of calm - the winners are not judged, which means the winner is right. In this way, the internal conflict is relieved for some time. But the effect of external victory always wears off. The feeling of guilt inherent in childhood requires new victims.

I've already made this disclaimer, but I'll repeat it just in case. Now we were not talking about specific living mothers and fathers, but about those people who took on this or that role. For example, a single mother may be torn between two roles. Or, with living parents, the father's role can be played, for example, by a grandfather. Therefore, when applying what has been said to yourself, take into account your own situation.

Thus, it is the need to act out pride and insignificance that requires the establishment of social contacts.

We need other people not because we like them so much and not because such a need is inherent in us by nature, but because they give us the opportunity to at least temporarily relieve the internal conflict - to come to terms with ourselves and get rid of the feeling of guilt.

Let's look at this in more detail.

Pride or vanity

The most obvious manifestation of the problem of pride is the struggle for power. This includes everything from childhood arguments about whose dad is cooler to presidential elections. Any power, real or nominal, allows you to calm down the feeling of doubt about your own rightness. Everyone is familiar with this type of leader for whom the sense of power is much more important than the reason for which this power was given to them.

The problem of pride also includes all possible competitions - everyday, sports and political. Victory over an opponent, even in a game setting, pleases vanity just as much as having power over people. And right there are all forms of empathy for competitors. People join parties and root for their favorite teams only to join in someone else’s victory and experience it vicariously.

The same can be said about any idea and form of social success - business, science, creativity. Wherever there is a comparison of one person with another, we can talk about vanity. If people didn’t have problems with pride, they would be content with what they minimally need. But how would this affect a modern state, which lives only by provoking its citizens to strive for new horizons and reach new heights of success?...

In relationships with people, pride manifests itself, for example, as a tendency to make judgments. In its crudest form, this is primitive criticism and humiliation, which is so easy to observe on any forum or in the comments of any blog.

A more subtle form of pride is, on the contrary, praise. It may seem that praise is elevating the other person, but in reality the connotation is completely different. After all, in order to praise, you need to have the right to give an assessment, and in order to give an assessment, you need to put yourself above the person being assessed. Therefore, it doesn’t matter what Moska does - barks or licks - in both cases she acts out her pride.

In the relationship between a man and a woman, pride also unfolds to its fullest. Women conquer and subjugate men - they form their retinue, drowning in the euphoric feeling of their own irresistibility. And men play the role of a hero-lover, whose main task is to get as many women into bed as possible and, thereby, prove their worth.

You can give a lot more examples, but I hope you have already caught the main idea and can continue the list yourself, based on your own experience.

Unworthiness or feelings of inferiority

The most famous manifestation of the pole of insignificance is playing the loser. Having recognized himself as a failure, a person refuses to achieve success and finds a wonderful way for himself to forever wallow in a feeling of self-pity. Thus, the internal conflict finds a way out and loses its tension, especially if you manage to find a grateful listener and cry into his vest.

Sensitivity, a tendency to doubt, the desire to please everyone, servility, subordination - all this is at the pole of insignificance. Behind all this is the desire to be loved, the desire to receive outside confirmation that I am good, that I am worthy of love, that I have the right to live in this world.

Here, on the side of human feelings of inferiority, there are many religions that protect the orphaned and wretched from life in the real world. The most striking example is modern Christianity, which with all its passion defends the humiliated and insulted, giving them consolation in its bosom and blocking any of their mental and spiritual development.

In a relationship between a man and a woman, feelings of insignificance are directly acted out through mutual emotional consolation. A woman plays for a man the role of a “loving” mother who will stroke, kiss, blow on the wound and hide him from all troubles. And the man does the same for her - he feels sorry for her, calms her down, wipes away her tears.

In social life, a feeling of inferiority dictates an extremely fearful model of behavior - suspiciousness, excessive caution, fear of conflicts, compliance. Anything to earn someone else’s love, or at least avoid someone else’s non-love. Therefore, such a person constantly seeks understanding, makes excuses, explains his actions. At the same time, we are very tolerant of other people’s behavior, forgiving others for what we could not allow ourselves under any circumstances.

Pendulum of pride and insignificance

Everyone is swinging on the pendulum of pride and insignificance. The difference between people is only in amplitude and which pole becomes a support in conscious life, and which acts predominantly unconsciously.

We are talking about a pendulum because there is always an energy balance between the poles. If a person excessively sticks out his pride, then with all confidence we can say that deep down in his soul he suffers with the same intensity from a sense of his own insignificance. Conversely, if a person diligently plays the role of a loser in need of love and understanding, it can be argued that the other side of his soul is torn to pieces from the desire to assert his pride.

Definite the difference can be seen between introverts and extroverts. Extroverts, because they are outward looking, tend to focus on acting out their pride. It is more important for them to achieve recognition from other people, achieve social success, and defeat all enemies and friends.

And introverts, being focused on their inner world, focus more on satisfying their feelings of inferiority. They are not so interested in social success; it is much more important for them to establish such relationships with people that everyone loves him (read, pity and console him).

At the same time, every extrovert, from time to time, needs a break - someone to reassure and console them, after the assertion of their own pride has failed for some reason. Then, the extrovert is forced to lick his wounds and, for this, usually finds support in another camp - among introverts who are excellent at feeling sorry for themselves and others.

And the same thing happens with introverts. Self-pity alone is not enough for them and, at least occasionally, they need injections of praise and public recognition. To do this, they turn for help to inveterate proud people - extroverts.

This is the basis of all sociality. The internal confrontation between pride and insignificance finds its energetic release in relationships with other people. We need friends, lovers, relatives because we cannot balance our inner world on our own., and therefore we rush from side to side - we establish ourselves and are consoled in each other’s arms.

The entire society is based on the internal disorder of people. Money, pop culture, science, wars, religions, relationships - wherever you look, everywhere we will find a confrontation between the poles of pride and insignificance. Remove internal discord from the equation, and, deprived of its cementing composition, the temple of sociality will collapse at the first breath of wind. But, since everyone participates in the creation and strengthening of the described game, the building of sociality is so strong that it can withstand any hurricane.

Way out

The sages say: “Don’t try to change the world - change yourself.” There is no point in fighting windmills in an attempt to change anything in the world around us.

All you can do is stop swinging your own pendulum, and when it's close to stopping, just jump off it.

The practical side of the issue is too individual to describe in detail. It is important to understand the main principle - trying to establish yourself on any of the poles does not solve the internal equation, but only increases the psychological imbalance.

It may seem that once a certain milestone in social success is reached, relaxation will set in and the struggle will cease by itself. But that's not true. With each step on the path to strengthening pride, the pole of insignificance and feelings of inferiority only becomes stronger, and therefore with each step new and larger victories will be required. Therefore, the pursuit of achievement and success will never stop - it can only gain speed, like the flow of a river before a waterfall.

It's the same with self-pity - you can never have enough of it. Consolation, no matter how complete it may be, leaves the internal conflict unaffected - the other half of the soul will continue to strive for social heights, splitting the psyche in half.

There is no other way out of this game other than to stop playing it. But imagine how difficult it is, because in attempts to stop, the same demonic forces come into play. Self-pity will demand the continuation of the banquet, and pride will defend the right to self-affirmation. And even when a person understands that the game leads to a dead end and in all seriousness tries to get off this train, he again finds himself in a trap - pride now plays out through the feeling of being chosen and special, and the feeling of insignificance will play along in order to protect this self-deception from revelations.

It's easy to change the scenery, but it's very difficult to leave the stage...

Сообщение Гордость и ничтожество — фундамент социальности появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

Сообщение Найти себя…советы профи.. появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

Any of us will list a whole list of rules, functions and requirements that an ideal daughter, student, wife, employee, mother must meet...

We will not dwell on the details; you can create your own list yourself. But, if we look at it in general, it comes down to several points.

What a comfortable, “good girl” SHOULD do

1. Listen to your elders

There is always someone who knows what is “right”.

First - parents and grandparents. Then - teachers, bosses, husbands...

Even if a woman has already become a mother and seems to be able to teach her children the “rules,” she is not exempt from “listening to elders.” After all, there is her mother, and even her mother-in-law.

It turns out that there will always be someone “more authoritative” than you, and there seems to be no end in sight to this cycle.

2. Don’t ask unnecessary questions, especially “Why does it have to be this way?”

That's why. Our grandfathers lived this way, and so will we.

You need to walk along convenient paths trodden by “generations of ancestors.”

3. Carry out the accepted list of actions for a particular social role

Which? And you wrote it above, for example, for “a good mother” or “a good wife.”

Clean every day, make 50 liters of jam, don’t argue with your boss, go to the factory, force the children to study well...

Who determines this list - see the paragraph above.

4. Care about others, not yourself

You were convenient for scoundrels, because you are so kind...
E. Yevtushenko

Think about others first, think about yourself last (if time and energy remain). Yes, by others we mean not only close ones, but also generally unknown “all people”.

Be kind (Oh-oh-oh!... What scope there is for manipulators who use your kindness for their own purposes).

Don't upset anyone. But no matter what you do, someone will definitely be upset or offended... You can be led by this rope for a long time.

In general, a good girl is called that because she is good and convenient for everyone. Except yourself. And everyone enjoys using this...

5. Pass on this experience to other girls (daughters, students)

Because otherwise she will be called a “bad mother” or “bad teacher.”

A bleak picture... It turns out to be a vicious circle of “endemic goodness.” Some women, who do not love themselves, teach growing girls to live the same way as they do, and they teach their daughters, and so on...

But there is one colossal thing about all this that makes me very happy. FREEDOM OF CHOICE.

And it is from her that the Creative Woman is born.

She creates her own reality. The word “should” disappears from her vocabulary. It kills the ease and freedom of creation. Such a woman uses the words “I want” and “I choose.”

Of course, she is conscious and adequate; freedom for her does not mean complete disregard for social rules.

She just thinks and chooses every time how she will act in every next moment of her life.

What does a Creative Woman CHOOSE to do?

1. Listen to yourself

Listen to your body, heart, ask for advice from your Higher Self. Be guided by your own wisdom and intuition.

No one knows your life, the circumstances and motives of your choices better than you. There is not a single person in the world who knows “what is right” for you to do in your life, except you.

2. Constantly ask questions and look for new ways

Of course, the Creative Woman has a list of habitual and understandable patterns of behavior that are pleasant to her and work well in her life (for example, going to bed at a certain time).

But she found them herself, by listening to herself and studying her body and psyche.

She possesses the experience of previous generations, but does not accept all of it “on faith,” but takes only what is truly comfortable and valuable to her.

Her feminine energy is very high. She creates every moment, looking for non-standard options. She sees and creates beauty and magic even in the simplest, everyday things. A dance, a painting, playing with a child or dinner - everything becomes a miracle in her hands.

3. Try to be as happy as possible, regardless of what social role you currently play.

The beauty of a woman is not in her clothes, figure or hairstyle. It glows in her happy eyes. After all, the eyes are the gates of the heart in which love lives.
Audrey Hepburn

A good daughter, wife, mother, employee - first of all, in every case, a Creative Woman is happy. She chooses joy and pleasure, and does not do anything that contradicts this. Even if someone thinks they “should do it.”

Next to a happy woman, her husband, children, and colleagues are happy. Her feelings are sincere and easy, and every family member feels inspired next to her.

And various household or professional affairs in this flow are done as if by themselves. And yes, those around you are very happy to help with their implementation.

4. Love and value yourself

Take care of your physical health and psychological comfort.

Relax, relax, engage in pleasant sports activities, go for massages and spa treatments.

Find time and solitude for self-development and meditation. Chat with nice people.

A self-loving, happy woman fills the surrounding space, family, and work team with warmth and light.

5. Support others' value and freedom of choice.

Girls should always be told that they are beautiful and that everyone loves them. If I have a daughter, I will always tell her that she is beautiful, I will comb her hair and I will not leave her alone for a minute.
Marilyn Monroe

A Creative Woman does not impose her way of life on anyone and does not condemn someone else’s.

But everyone who communicates with her is imbued with a feeling of lightness and self-worth. She has accepted her beauty and strength, and now sees it in others.

A Creative Woman is truly inspiring for her friends, daughters, students...

How good it is that at every moment of our lives there is freedom of choice!

Each woman can choose for herself whether to remain a good and comfortable girl until retirement, or take life into your own hands and create it with pleasure...

And I made my choice. I wish the same for you, dear friends.

Сообщение «Хорошая девочка» или Женщина творящая. Какой Вы выбираете быть? появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

The daily routine has long set your teeth on edge... you want something new, but you are driving yourself into the strict framework of how a mother or wife should behave. Accordingly, first responsibilities and affairs, and then everything else... for which there is usually no time left.

Get up an hour earlier! And spend it on something you LIKE, be it a walk in the fresh air, a short meditation, your favorite songs before everyone gets up... Thus, you are charged with energy and harmony right in the morning

2. Allow yourself to do nothing

I understand that any more or less organized woman has a daily routine planned for weeks in advance... after all, women approach everyday issues more responsibly (with all due respect to men).

And if you suddenly have a free minute, you will most likely immediately find something to do with yourself.

And you try to do NOTHING?! Lie on the couch for half an hour after waking up... soak in the bath... chat with your friends on the phone)))

And most importantly: DO NOT scold yourself for wasting time aimlessly!

You are not a work horse to work non-stop.

3. Treat yourself to a spa experience

I wanted to write about body care and relaxation at home... But if you have small children at home, or you work during the day and come home only in the evening, when the whole family is gathered, it is unlikely that you will be able to relax on the 100%...

Modern spa salons offer a full range of services: from massage and aromatherapy to swimming pools and thermal baths with beautiful music and lit candles.

Once a month you can definitely allow yourself to break away from household chores and enjoy it to the fullest!

4. Go shopping

When you have just enough money in your wallet to not stretch your legs until payday, the idea of going shopping causes sharp rejection: “What am I going to do there?!”

But modern shopping centers are entire conglomerates of beautiful shops, cozy cafes, entertainment centers...

Women are inherently visual; they absorb the diversity of the world through their EYES. Don’t deprive yourself of the pleasure of going shopping, trying on everything you catch your eye on, drinking coffee in a pleasant environment...

It is NOT necessary to spend money))) But you will get a lot of pleasure.

5. Arrange a meeting with friends

I won’t ask when was the last time you met your close friends in person... In the era of cell phones and the Internet, communication has become virtual and one-on-one.

Yes, you can hold a group video meeting on Skype, but will it replace live support, warm hugs, conversations about nothing... There are always questions and situations that you can only share in person.

6. Take a break from cooking

I'm not telling you to stop cooking altogether... but you can take a short break.

In almost any city today you can order food to your home: pizza, sushi or any other dish from the menu (depending on where you live).

A more romantic option: invite your husband/beloved man for a romantic dinner in a cafe or restaurant.

{Our family doesn’t drink alcohol, but the picture is cute...}

7. Spend the evening alone with your loved one

An unsettled life gradually kills even the most ardent feelings. Especially when there are many children in the house.

Agree with your relatives/friends/nanny that they will look after the kids for a couple of hours... and you yourself...

Arrange an unforgettable evening for yourself and your loved one. With candles, a light dinner, a sensual movie and a bath with rose petals.

As far as your imagination goes.

8. Do something you always don’t have time for

Surely, there is a favorite activity/s on your to-do list that you constantly put off until you have free time.

Free time is an illusion, it may not exist in the next 10 years. So what, you will put off what you like to do for such a long time?!

What do you like to do? Sew? To knit? Paint? Write? Re-read your favorite book?

Or maybe you have long been planning to go to the hairdresser, get a manicure...

DO IT! Stop procrastinating! You only live once.

9. Make it a rule to treat yourself to something REGULARLY.

I am a realist by nature, and I fully understand that following this article, you can do one thing from this list.

To do and forget in the daily routine of affairs.

But how great it will be if EVERY day you allow yourself a little joy: prepare a fruit salad for YOURSELF, eat your favorite cake/ice cream... such little things make up our lives!

Сообщение 10 способов побаловать себя для девушек… появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

 The scent of a woman “Second clothes” is best chosen in the afternoon, when the sense of smell intensifies. Before purchasing, you should show restraint and not grab the first bottle you like. Approach the issue more carefully - spray a drop on your wrist or elbow and wear it for about an hour. It is during this time that the fragrance will reveal all its notes and show how it can reveal itself specifically to you. The most common mistake is assessing the smell in a concentrated state. The aroma should be inhaled in a volatile state, in motion - because this is how women's perfumes function for you. Before purchasing, you should smell the product at least three times. Ideally, it is better to buy a sample and use the scent for a couple of days. Over this period of time, you will surely become friends with the aroma and appreciate it. And also eliminate the possibility of further disappointment.

Charisma of aroma Smell is the same dance. It can spin and ignite, or it can caress and pacify. In a matter of seconds, you can suddenly improve your mood, give a feeling of pleasure - all this is given by the aroma. Therefore, a woman's temperament must continue in her scent. Bold and ambitious women who crave action benefit from masculine scents. For sensual seductresses, apply the magic of oriental scents. Perfume is an ethereal miracle that can shape a person’s perception and add special touches to his charm. Often the smell is what is fixed in the memory of you. It's hard to imagine how many fragrances there are in the scent industry, and it's even harder to choose the scent for yourself. Often women rely on their intuition and personal preferences. But to form a holistic and harmonious image, it is worth using some subtleties.

The magic of your charm is multiplied if you combine the right scent and hair color. Magic in a bottle The beauty of brown-haired women is natural and natural, and the image gives warmth and peace. It is advisable for dark brown-haired women to choose honey-spicy aromas of Bulgarian and Moroccan rose, heliotrope. And those with a golden brown hue should pay attention to the notes of gardenia, acacia, honeysuckle, and sweet pea. Red hair color is always trendy and loved. Such girls are the adornment of any society. They are called and welcome everywhere - because they always bring energy, enthusiasm and fun. Relevance, freshness and brightness – this is what fiery beauties need. Redheads should choose a scent that is tantalizing, sensual, but at the same time fresh, such as hyacinth, which can become a personal magnet.

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Сообщение Cочетания цветов волос и ароматов появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

We women are cyclical creatures, and, together with all of nature, we also want freedom. Freedom of soul and body. This is what we will talk about today.

What is women's freedom and non-freedom?

In general, in what case can you say about yourself “I am a free woman”?

We are not in prison, we are not chained to work, to the kitchen, to relationships that exhaust us... Physically, it seems, no.

But, as you yourself know, emotional and mental (i.e. mental, mental) connections are often stronger than physical ones. And they are capable of limiting our freedom much more...

Let me clarify. Now I’m not talking about external freedom, but about internal freedom.

An internally free woman will be happy, she will find a resource and a way out of any difficult circumstances. The internally unfree will suffer even in a prosperous situation.

And now more specifically about the steps of a woman’s inner freedom.

1. Free yourself from the need to be good. Do as you choose

We were all taught to be “good”, and in fact - comfortable girls

We have grown up a long time ago, but a set of criteria for “goodness” is imprinted in our consciousness.

• “Keep your head down, keep quiet, you’ll pass for smart” (and then how to build a career?);
• “Do not ask for toys and sweets, if they offer you a treat, refuse” (then the woman does not know how to accept gifts even from her beloved man, thereby killing his desire to do anything for her);
• and the hit of all times: “Sex is a shame, good girls are embarrassed by this, only libertines love THIS” (and then again, they ask why you are not married or have no children)…

I think we should say goodbye to all these attitudes.

Yes, it is not easy and requires mental work. But how good it is that there are methods and courses that allow you to get rid of such “mental garbage”!

It is clear that chaos does not reign in the soul of a free woman. It has its own principles and rules. But she formulated and chose them herself.

And yes, some people may not like them. A free woman ceases to be comfortable. But usually she becomes happy and sincerely loved.

2. Освободиться от потребности быть всегда правой. Знать, что ваше мнение ценно, но это только ваше мнение

Another big lack of freedom is the reinforced concrete feeling of being right and the desire to convey it to everyone around you.

Remember how uncomfortable you feel when they try to impose on you the “holy truth” (“immutable traditions”, “life experience”, “competent opinion”, “foundations of ancestors”).

So, it’s much harder for a person who lives in all these “foundations” and broadcasts them. Because all his strength goes into preserving these bulky structures in our flexible and changing world.

Think about whether you have such attitudes and how you deal with them.

I am not calling for abandoning the description of the world altogether. Of course, you will have your own opinion on various issues.

But I think you need to review it from time to time, and, of course, not impose it on others. This is unnecessary pain and lack of freedom for you.

Да, все, что я здесь пишу – конечно же, только мое мнение

3. Freeing yourself from the need to control everything. Trust yourself and the world

In fact, the idea that we can control anything at all is an illusion. 98% of incoming information generally passes by our consciousness.

Trying to hold on to everything and everyone and to keep track of everything, the lion's share of our energy is spent, which could go to creativity, restoration of health, and self-realization.

And, as a rule, the greatest lack of freedom lies in the desire to control others. This is an empty number on 100%.

We so want people (especially close ones) to behave in a certain way. We demand, ask, double-check. And usually, over and over again we suffer and burn our resources.

We live on a planet of free choice, and each person is responsible for his own life.

Close people and the world do not need to be controlled. Usually, just asking sincerely is enough.

If you don't get what you want, it's okay. This means they asked for the wrong thing and the wrong thing. Or the person simply cannot do it.

But, as a rule, people hear and fulfill requests - unlike orders.

Living in an “uncontrolled” world is generally more interesting.

After all, the Universe usually prepares something much better for us than we can even imagine!

4. Freeing yourself from the need to take everything personally. Distinguish between yourself and other people's perceptions of you

All your loved ones and acquaintances, of course, have some kind of image of you. This is not the real you. This is just their picture, an illusion - a cocktail of their memories, ideas, fantasies about you, also generously flavored with their own attitude towards the world.

Every person has the right to think and say whatever comes into his head. He can also judge and criticize you, and nothing can be done about it (we already talked about control).

What can you do? Choose how to react to this, as well as with whom and when to communicate.

And remember that the opinions of others about you, your appearance and actions are only their opinion.

And if it hurts you, you can think about why it hurts and work through this issue; or wonder if you have let someone who is destructive to you get too close.

5. Liberation from the need to sacrifice oneself. Perform any action with joy

Sacrifice, that is, giving up something that is significant to you for the sake of another person or idea, is always painful.

If some idea or concept makes you sacrifice, think about it, is it really that good?

And why sacrifice yourself, for example, for the sake of your loved ones, if you can simply help them according to your desire and strength.

You may not give as much as they want - you will give as much as you can. But this will be done sincerely, with joy.

Believe me, it will be good for both them and you.

Any energy invested is multiplied. A sacrifice starts a cycle of other victims, joy increases joy...

6. Don't force yourself to follow a rigid schedule. Listen to your own and natural cycles.

A woman is very closely connected with nature. Our lives are filled with rhythms - breathing, heartbeats, daily activity, monthly hormonal cycle and so on.

We are influenced by the revolutions of the Moon and the Sun, as well as other celestial bodies.

And this is not just “energetics”, but ordinary physics. If the Moon moves the waters of the world's oceans, and we are made of water at 70%, how can it not influence us?

Therefore, sometimes “unreasonable” melancholy sets in or the state of health slightly worsens - the body offers to restore strength. At some moments, mood and performance increase sharply, and so on.

Forcing yourself to always be an effective and resilient “iron lady” is not only lack of freedom, but also a path to illness.
Listening to yourself and living according to natural cycles is the greatest benefit for a woman. Perhaps one of the most important degrees of freedom that we can afford.

You may ask - how is this possible, given work, schedules, children, social demands?

In fact, I won’t give ready-made recipes. I will only say that if the first 5 steps are completed, the 6th step follows from them easily and naturally.

I wish you good luck on this journey!

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Shades of red have the longest wavelength of all the colors in the spectrum. “People tend to look at redheads longer than, say, brunettes, simply because those are the laws of physics,” says color expert Dewey Sadka, author of The Dewey Color System. The cost of a hairdresser quickly pays off. “Getting people to pay attention to you is the first step toward your success,” says evolutionary anthropologist Dr. Jerome Barkow, who wrote the book Darwin, Sex and Status. Red-haired people, as a rule, have a choleric temperament and are easily excitable. Obviously, this is due to some genetic reasons. But the temperament of those who became red-haired not by the will of nature, but by the call of the soul, also changes. Shy brown-haired women, together with red curls, gain self-confidence, drive and festivity. “When I was 17 years old, I was fair-haired, without bangs. I had crazy long hair, I was very thin. The young people did not pay attention to me. And in order to draw their attention to me, I cut my bangs, chose the brightest red dye in the store and dyed it. The effect was immediate. In fact, cars stopped, turned around, men ran out and threw business cards at me!” – Anastasia Stotskaya, the reddest of the Russian pop divas, admits.

TURN UP THE HEAT The easiest way to start a new life is to dye your hair. This is a less radical way to change something about yourself compared to a tattoo or piercing. It is difficult to imagine a red-haired girl as a sad and depressed person. Psychologist Jean Tvenge, co-author of the book The Narcissism Epidemic, says that girls with fiery hair seem to others to have certain unique traits: recklessness, independence and the ability to rise above circumstances. By choosing red hair color instead of the previous one, we openly declare to the world our uniqueness and strength. “It's difficult to determine why people tend to attribute special qualities to redheads,” says Todd Disoutel, an anthropologist and professor at New York University. – Perhaps this is due to the history of wars and the change of royal dynasties. The red-haired Celtic warriors were famous for their special fearlessness and habit of defeating the enemy in open battle.” The Vikings and Teutons who conquered half of Europe were red-haired. The legendary German king Frederick Barbarossa, revered by his contemporaries for his valor and charisma, received his nickname because of his bright red beard. Queen Elizabeth, who changed the history of England, was also famous for her copper curls. “Red adds energy and self-confidence to us, which is why girls often dye their hair red in those periods of life when they need inspiration. For example, after a breakup with a partner,” continues Professor Twenge. Note to men: German researchers were able to establish that women who suddenly decide to change their natural hair color to red are thereby signaling their readiness to change partners. “Perhaps the special treatment of red-haired people is nothing more than a stereotype,” Professor Barkow joins the discussion, “and the magical effect of red hair dye is explained by the fact that we believe in the power of this color. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that redheads are sexy, bold and attractive, is it any wonder that men are magnetically drawn to red-haired beasts?” SHAMELESS REDhead “Redheads are on the rise because brunettes and blondes have been dominant for years,” says Jerome Barkow. And he’s right: total red in hair color fashion is a throwback after hundreds of years of discrimination against redheads.

Many cultures have legends that red-haired people are the descendants of demons who once tried to take over the Earth. The exception is the mythology of the Celts. Their red-haired girls are the daughters of fairies. But this is understandable - half of the Irish are red-haired, like Ron Weasley from Harry Potter. Who would slander themselves? The Egyptians, who were mostly dark-haired, caught red-haired ones in order to sacrifice them to the god Amun-Ra in the spring. It was believed that copper-haired people were especially pleasing to the Sun. In addition, the color of their hair resembled the color of ripe wheat and rye, so desired by the farmers of Ancient Egypt. Since the time of Mary Magdalene, bright red hair has been an attribute of professional priestesses of love. But this is not all the troubles of redheads. Lush fiery curls almost certainly indicated that their owner was a witch. During the time of Torquemada, this sign was enough for the Inquisition to become interested in the girl. Especially if the red hair came with multi-colored eyes. And the genes that determine heterochromia (different-colored eyes) and redness often go together. Considering that tens of thousands of “witches” were burned at the stake, half of them only because of bad hair color, it is not surprising that there are practically no true redheads left. It was only during the Renaissance that red-haired girls became the undisputed standard of beauty. Titian and Rubens sang beauties with copper and gold hair on their canvases, and Petrarch sang their praises in verse. Noble Italian women rushed to buy Arabic henna to be on trend. By the way, for henna lovers, it is almost impossible to lighten your hair after it. Therefore, it is still worth starting “red” experiments with professional hair dye. At school, red-haired children become targets of bullying more often than “bespectacled” children or representatives of the “fat trust” category. Which, by the way, the malicious creators of the animated series “South Park” did not fail to take advantage of. In one of the episodes of the ninth season, red-haired children create their own organization, the goal of which is to avenge all the red-haired people on Earth by exterminating the non-redheads. Luckily they didn't succeed

. Naturally red hair, which resulted from a random mutation thousands of years ago, is found in less than two percent of the human population. There are fewer and fewer redheads, and geneticists say they may completely disappear from the face of the earth by 2060. This sore subject was raised at the world meeting of redheads, held in 2009 in the Dutch city of Breda. More than four thousand redheads simultaneously practically eclipsed the sun. Let's hope that they also managed to solve the problem of population decline. Alas, saffron milk caps are vulnerable. When paired with golden hair, they usually end up with snow-white skin that does not tolerate the sun well and is prone to the formation of melanomas. Most chronic diseases, not fatal, but unpleasant, for some reason more actively cling to redheads than, say, to natural blondes. Red hair is thicker than hair of other colors. But their density on the head is low. True, when you look at Lily Cole or Julianne Moore, you somehow can’t believe that they have less hair than most fair-haired fellow citizens.

Natural red women's hair is not only “valuable fur”. They also have technical applications. Red hair, due to its special physical characteristics, is used in hygrometers - measuring instruments for determining air humidity. The maximum concentration of natural redheads is in Scotland, Australia and the USA. In America there is even an organization called the Union of Redheads, in which there are more than 12 million red-haired people. Russian-speaking redheads can find each other on the website redpeople.org. The unofficial capital of redheads in the Russian Federation is the capital of Udmurtia, Izhevsk. Every year in the fall the Red Festival takes place there. After all, the Udmurts are the closest relatives of the Finns. And most Finns are redheads. SOME LIKE HOT “Gentlemen prefer blondes, but marry brunettes.” This truth has not lost its relevance, despite the growth in sales of red hair dye. Gentlemen really avoid red-haired women because they come across as aggressive, bold and self-sufficient. It’s not for nothing that red is associated with an alarm signal. In addition, it is believed that such young ladies have an indomitable sexual appetite. And the fear of bed fiasco ranks first among the most common male phobias. The thesis is scientifically confirmed. Professor Peter Ayton from the University of London showed three photographs of the same woman to 1,500 male participants in the study. In one photograph the woman was presented as a blonde, in another as a brunette and in the third as a redhead. More than half (51 %) of the study participants chose a brunette, finding this image the most attractive. Second place went to blondes. Well, the third, of course, is red. Blondes are losing their position because this image is traditionally combined with fragility and vulnerability. All three qualities are no longer in demand on the marriage market. However, redheads still have an undeniable evolutionary advantage. There is a scientific theory with the tricky name “disassociative mating,” the essence of which is that any individual instinctively strives to merge with an object of the opposite sex, who has unique qualities that are not similar to anyone else. “The children born from such a union will be carriers of new gene variations,” says Tod Disoutel, “and nature is interested in biodiversity.”

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Сообщение Рыжие девушки…кто они и чего от них ждут… появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.

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Сообщение Впусти СИЯНИЕ в свои ВОЛОСЫ.Как сделать цвет волос “горящим” появились сначала на Лиля Майорова.